Despite what stories she wants to tell people to justify what she did. I’m a good fucking person. I’m not the monster she wants to frame me as.

I took her on with a newborn child and a toddler. I helped bring them up. I provided and nurtured. When the relationship broke down and she convinced me I was the problem, I let her stay in what was originally my home, because that was the right thing to do by the kids. I went and looked for somewhere else to live, I started again so she didn’t have too. All the while she knew what she was up to behind my back. Still think I’m lying about her cheating. Fine, but she’s admitted it to me on more than one occasion, and I know what I fucking saw.

I didn’t transfer over £4000 of joint savings to my own personal account, that was her. I didn’t plan to sell the caravan and keep every penny for myself… that was her. So, she could pay for driving lessons so she could go see the new guy no doubt.

I didn’t try to engineer my husband to stay in the family home and watch the dogs so I could go and see the person I’d been cheating with… that was her. She told me it was his birthday party, and everyone was going and looked me in the eyes and lied when I asked if I had a reason to be concerned about this guy. (She did this on at least two occasions when I asked her). But my fucking gut was screaming something was going on… and it was right.

Maybe you all knew what was going on, you just didn’t fucking care because of whatever bullshit she was telling you to make you all feel sorry for her, because the relationship was just so bad, and I was just such a terrible person to live with.

What did I do? I fucking broke myself in half trying to fix the relationship. Was driven to suicidal thoughts I couldn’t escape, stuck in a caravan at the front of what was our family home. I phoned the police on myself out of sheer desperation because the thoughts wouldn’t fucking stop. I’d been reduced to knocking on my own front door for access to the amenities.

So while you’re believing all the lies she is peddling. Look at what I did versus what she did. Oh, and don’t think your protected from the bullshit she spins, because she had a lot to say about the all of you at one point or another. I just don’t need to lower myself to expose her.

The minute I was out the door; she was erasing every bit of my existence. She’d gone from fake crying upstairs about being so upset about breaking it off with me to changing her name back the very next day, removing her wedding ring the very next day, removing me from pictures and whatever else. She couldn’t do it quick enough. That’s not the behaviour of an innocent party. That’s calculated. She had it all planned out. I was just oblivious to it.

I broke my heart to her, reading a letter I’d wrote in work, trying to make amends and she laughed in my fucking face. At one point when I was staying in the caravan, she emailed me, told me to come in and talk. I was going over stuff that had been said between her and him, intimate messages and she laughed in my face again, like it was all some kind of joke. This was one of the occasions where she admitted she was messaging him for two weeks before we broke up. But I’m lying, she wasn’t doing that. This was also the same occasion where she told me what was going on with him wouldn’t lead to anything because he lives too far away for it to work. Because I suggested within a few months she’d be moving in with him. She said she wouldn’t, and I said… how will that even work then. To which she said, exactly, it won’t. She was either lying to me about what it was, or she’s lying to him and leading him on. Either way I’m past fucking caring.

And what do you lot do when I exposed her for cheating? Remain silent, don’t say a word, block me. And now, suddenly you want to come out and attack me? Now you have something to say. And for what, it’s to fucking defend her because you don’t like my words. What are you fucking defending? Lies, deceit, cheating, dehumanising me? You’re defending the indefensible. She doesn’t hold the moral high ground here. She never will.

Throughout the relationship, she maintained she was incapable of lying. Yet for the last month and a half that’s all that comes out of her mouth. Now, she’s incapable of telling the truth. The lengths she will go to, to try and justify everything she has done. To paint herself as a victim and make out like she was hard done by. Because to tell the truth would be to admit she’s a liar, a coward a cheat and a thief… no wonder she lies. That’s a lot to admit for anyone.