There’s a strange irony in being called a narcissist by a narcissist. It’s projection—an attempt to force their narrative, rewrite history, and paint you as the villain. When you’re caught in a trauma bond, it cuts deeply. You know it isn’t true, yet the urge to defend yourself is overwhelming. You want to reach out, to reason, to make them understand. But they don’t care. They know what they’re doing. Empathy isn’t part of their world.

Their life revolves around themselves. They made you believe you were the centre of their universe—and you were, but only as a source of supply. When you look back with clarity, the facts speak for themselves. The pain they inflicted runs deep, and healing doesn’t come quickly. Knowing the truth doesn’t flick a switch. You can’t just “get over it.” But knowledge helps you set boundaries, protect yourself, and create distance. And distance is your strongest weapon.

The most valuable advice I can share from my own experience is this: block them everywhere you can. Every channel that connects you is another doorway for them to draw supply from you. Even after discarding you, they’re still watching, still seeking ways to keep you tethered. You remain a source, even in silence.

I made the mistake of leaving one door open. I knew she still had access to my blog, and I used it as a way to reach her—still trapped in the trauma bond, still trying to appeal to her. But all I did was feed her ego. Each post confirmed I was broken, destroyed, and struggling without her. That was the very fuel she thrived on.

Silence, however, is their greatest enemy. To truly break free, you have to discard them as easily as they discarded you. No matter how hard it feels, remember this: they do not have your best interests at heart, and nothing you say or do will change that. Take the energy you’ve been pouring into them, and redirect it into yourself. That’s where your healing begins.